by Dr. Deanna Shrodes | May 17, 2023 | Adoptees, Family, Grief, Loss, Relationships
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” Washington Irving I stare...
by Dr. Deanna Shrodes | Feb 3, 2023 | Adoptees, Adoption, Family, Grief, Loss, Relationships, Uncategorized
When Gus first died, I wanted to stay at home all the time. The reason was simple. I didn’t have the emotional bandwidth to be sweet when others said or did annoying things, so I stayed to myself. There are people I encounter who love me very much but aren’t the...
by Dr. Deanna Shrodes | Jan 12, 2023 | Adoptees, Adoption, Family, Relationships, Reunion, Trauma
What I am about to share has been difficult to come to terms with this past week. In my heart, I already knew it, but having proof hurts just the same. I have said several times that even though Gus (my bio father) is dead, our story isn’t over. It won’t be until...
by Dr. Deanna Shrodes | Dec 14, 2022 | Adoptees, Leadership, Ministry, Relationships, Weight Loss
This is me, getting ready to delve into a place that’s one of the most vulnerable for me, but I think someone needs to go there and I’m picking myself for the job. If someone doesn’t say to you, “Hey, I’m fat and need to get in shape and I could use your help…”...
by Dr. Deanna Shrodes | Dec 12, 2022 | Recovery, Leadership, Relationships, Trauma
Seven months ago I met my biological father, Gus, for the first time. Four months and fifteen days ago I brought him home to live with me, and became his full-time caregiver. It was the most amazing journey I have ever been on, and it was also one of the hardest. As...